The Custody Battle Rages On

Today, my eX is taking my precious 5-year-old son for his week of co-parenting. I have a million thoughts running through my mind and most of them are etched with dread, loss, and sadness. Even though the battle has been going on since before he was even born, it still feels so strange to see him getting into the car of the only enemy I have ever known – a man who is aggressively trying to strip me of my rights as my sons’ mother. The irony that I am suddenly on the defense is unfathomable to me, as I have always felt myself to be an exceptional mother and that my eX is a reckless and narcissistic father, at best.

From before my son was even born, I nurtured him, read to him, prayed for him, sang to him and loved him. Once he was born, I nursed him, cuddled him, stared at him, slept on the floor next to his crib, played peek-a-boo just to get a belly laugh from him, protected him, churched him and loved him. When he was a toddler, I played with him, taught him to speak, to sing, to pray, and to dance. I taught him to fly a kite, to ride a horse, to roller skate, to boogie board and to sit quietly and watch the sunset on my lap at the beach. I have spent most waking hours, like many mothers, planning my children’s meals, cleaning their rooms, doing their laundry, picking up their toys, planning their days, reading stories and trying to capture all the joys of their youth. However, for women in custody battles, those simple chores and joys are always over shadowed by the dread of what is lurking in the corner: Evil sometimes in the form of attorneys, courts, judges, accusations, allegations, and finally the “decision.” Since starting this site, I have read so many horror stories similar to my own; it terrifies me that, in less than two months, my son could possibly become forcibly estranged from his brothers, his loving stepfather and me, his mommy. The terror that the courts inflict on the weak seems so unjust and misdirected that sometimes it feels like hell on earth. Do you feel this way? If so, how are you coping? Please share your story, there are so many of us out here who need support, advice, and acknowledgement.

If you are not ready to share, that’s okay too and regardless if you are religious or not, I would like to share a prayer that my friend Tina posted on her site http://www.onemomsbattle.com/

 

Prayer During Child Custody IssuesDear heavenly Father, I thank you that you are a Father and that you understand all of my feelings and love and great desires for the well being of the children you have given me to love, nurture and care for.I thank you that when Jesus was baptized, you felt great pride and said, “You are my Son whom I love; with you I am well pleased.” (Mark 1:11) I thank you for giving these children to me. They are such a precious gift from you. Here are some of the things I love most about being in their lives….I thank you that you gave custody of your own son Jesus to earthly parents to raise knowing that there would be times when they failed to understand Him and times they couldn’t be there for Him. I offer up to Jesus the times that I felt I might have failed to be the parent I wanted to be and the times I couldn’t be there for my children …Today Father, I am very concerned about the future of my children. My heart is aching and breaking. I offer up to you the specific circumstances that we are facing …

Show me how to express love to my children in ways that they will understand. Give me wisdom well beyond my own on what to tell them and what not to tell them about the custody issue…

Keep the lines of communication open between me and my children. I pray your power against all physical and psychological interferences that would block me from my children. Protect against all false and misleading statements made to my children including…

I pray that the truth will come to light in all areas, particularly in…

I pray that you will show me a way to vent my frustration, anger and sense of injustice in healthy ways without having it boil over and cause problems. Here are the things that I am angry about. Thank you that you are listening…

I pray that you will give discernment to all judges, lawyers, social workers, mediators and child advocates so that they might make sound, wise decisions concerning my children. Give them hearts of love; make them good judges of character. I also pray that Jesus will be my advocate as it says in the Bible. (Romans 8:34; I John 2:1) I pray that Jesus will be my advocate in…

I pray for protection for my children when I am not able to be there with them. Father, when I am not with my children, here are the unhealthy influences that I pray you protect them against…

I pray for the person(s) who are causing the difficulties that you will place limits and boundaries on their realm of influence. Help them to see beyond their own personal agendas, motives, controlling behavior and personality problems. Stir up in their hearts love for these children. Help them desire more than all else to provide the children with a stable, loving, protective, healthy home atmosphere. Help the relationship between the person involved and myself to be rational, cooperative, sensible and focused on the well being of the children and not on any past issues between us such as…

And finally, I pray for wisdom and guidance as to what specific steps I need to take in this situation. I now listen for your guidance, knowing that when I take the first step, you’ll guide me to the next…

Thank you, loving Father. Amen

 

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  1. I pray for you to have peace that transcends all understanding and that Jesus will advocate on your behalf. No mother should have to go through what you are.

    Love to you,
    Traci

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